This message is HUGE so I hope you are able to take some time to listen to the whole video. Within twenty short minutes, Brene Brown shows that in order to feel genuinely worthy of love and belonging you must first embrace your vulnerability.
Several years ago a wonderful mentor said to me: "You are always the safest and strongest when you are most vulnerable. Surrender to your vulnerability." My internal response to her notion was one of confusion and skepticism, but I trusted my teacher so deeply that I decided to remain open and see how I could apply it to my life. For me, vulnerability is not always pretty, and I can't say I even know what I'm doing most of the time, but I can say that creating and nurturing vulnerable moments have been a whole lot more satisfying then hanging back and doing nothing.
In her talk, Brene Brown says that one the biggest steps you can take towards vulnerability is to allow yourself to be deeply seen by others and lean into these moments of discomfort. Wow, that sounds so easy, but as a human being with a brain that is deeply invested in physical and emotional survival, learning to be vulnerable could feel like jumping off a cliff.
When I learned to ski for the first time, I remember the instructor saying turn away from the slope and lean your body down the mountain. WHAT?!! That's just insanity because my body feels a heck of a lot better reaching for the safety and comfort of the ground if I leaned backwards instead of forwards. Learning to lean my body forward and reach out into space so that I propel myself down a steep slope is something that takes a lot of undoing of habitual behaviors. Only through experience and repetition that builds a sense of trust between my body and mind, will I ever believe that I am actually more connected to the moment on the mountain and my own inner power by becoming more vulnerable.
My new book Lemonade Mantras is an incredible tool that can teach you how to lean into the discomfort of your own emotional vulnerability through a repetitive practice of self-empathy. The exercises in Lemonade Mantras help you build a genuine connection with your inner voice creating more confidence in your own self-expression, which leads to a sense that being vulnerable is your most natural state of being. Through the Lemonade Mantras process you build a scaffold of courage for yourself by understanding and acknowledging your deepest fears and desires. By consistently applying the 10-step Lemonade Mantras process to your life, you will come to understand that you are worthy to be loved and will find ever-increasing moments of vulnerability entering your life.