One of the things I like best about connecting through Hint Jewelry is that many people come to me looking for a charm to honor the loss of a beloved. Be it human or animal, I am always touched by people's stories and their search to honor a relationship that may have passed in the physical realm but continues to live on within their soul.
Over the last four years, I've lost every one of my primary relationships. Both of my cats of 18 and 16 years died, and my husband and I decided to get a divorce. Before I jokingly referred to the four of us as living on the Island of Misfit Toys; however, now I have no intimate relationships creating a safe refuge and am on my own for the first time.
In a recent moment of sadness, where I realized just how much I miss my cozy island where everything felt understandable to me, I found myself asking, "How can I honor these relationships? What can I do to show them how much they live on within me and are forever etched on my soul?"
That's the response I heard. Continue to grow and in doing so their love woven into the fabric of my heart will expand also.
It's easy for me to live a small and safe life. To create an island away from the world. To hide out in my fear, anger, sadness, grief, and sickness. But what I've come to understand during these four years of learning to let go and surrender to loss is that this experience has the ability to expand you outward. In the center of a family, my safe haven, I lived in a type of wonderful mirage, and when it dissolved from around me, I was given the opportunity to see that the whole world is my sanctuary.
Shedding relationships through loss is like shedding emotional skin and being that raw infant all over again -- open and available to be used by the Divine for something entirely new and unexpected. It's scary, thrilling, and real.
If you have recently experienced a breakup or divorce, please visit my blog Breakup Care Package where I will be posting new information, and you can download my free ebook Divorce Care Package -- a source of healing and help when your relationship ends. This book is not just for individuals who have been legally married and divorced but for all people who feel they have lost a love relationship through some kind of separation.
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