It seems that all my bridges have been burned
But, you say that's exactly how this grace thing works
It's not the long walk home that will change this heart,
But the welcome I receive with the restart.
Being able to freely forgive others without wanting anything in return directly correlates to how much empathy, compassion, and forgiveness you have developed for your own self. That seems counter intuitive and perhaps a little selfish -- as if you don't have any humility. However, your love for others can only be as big and gracious as it is for yourself.
This is a truth I have realized through learning how to forgive and also by having a meditation practice of loving-kindness. Empathy, compassion, and forgiveness begins with you. Welcome home the part of you that is ashamed, broken, angry, and afraid. Work with your material first and then watch the immensity of empathy, compassion, and forgiveness you have offered yourself flow outward towards others. This is a bigger love than you perhaps first imagined. It is agape -- a love that is wide open, selfless, and accepting of everyone and everything. The kind that doesn't have anything attached to it and works through you by grace.
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