This is a four week series that explains how to write a positive affirmation in 4 steps. More information can be found in my book Lemonade Mantras, which you can download for FREE by clicking here.
To see all 4 Steps from the blog series click here.
Step 1: Make a Concrete Observation
Notice a Trigger Event (something happening in your life that stimulates feelings of anger or frustration) and then neutralize your evaluation into a Concrete Observation.
Step 2: Uncover a Need
Ask the question, "What did I Need?"
Step 3: Acknowledge Your Judgments
Write down your Judgments -- negative thoughts you have about the person or situation.
How to Acknowledge Your Judgments
Your thoughts about a challenging experience in your life stimulate more discomfort than the actual event itself. Your negative thinking about a Trigger Event is called a Judgment, and these thoughts that spin in your head can cause more damage over time than the actual experience, snowballing into unhealthy reactions, unbalanced energy, physical pain, and mental stress.
This process has you shine a light on your Judgments -- your negative thoughts surrounding a Trigger Event so as to uncover a pattern of beliefs in your life that you want to learn about, interrupt, and re-script into something positive.
- Recall what you Needed during this Trigger Event. Connecting with your Needs will help you hear the silent Judgments in your head.
- What are you thinking about this Trigger Event? What should or shouldn't have happened? What do you believe needed to be corrected or changed?
- On a piece of paper write down 3 to 5 Judgments about your Trigger Event using "should" or "shouldn't" in the sentence. Be as critical as possible.
To learn more about Judgments and taking responsibility for your Self-Judgments, click here to download my free ebook Lemonade Mantras and read chapter 5. Or check out my Youtube video on Lemonade Mantras chapter 5 by clicking here.